Viona Njogu There is a Swedish proverb about relationships that says, 'shared joy is a double joy and shared sorrow is half a sorrow...
Viona Njogu
There is a Swedish proverb about relationships that says, 'shared joy is a double joy and shared sorrow is half a sorrow'. When one is in a relationship everything feels right although other things may just be falling apart. At least this is characteristic of stable relationships. While most or rather some of marriages start with relationships in campus, most campus relationships do not go past three months. Here’s why:
1. Sexual gratification: Most campus students seem to have this uncontrolled sexual appetite. No pun intended there. Some choose to camouflage their desires by being in an almost 'stable' relationship in order to make it seem normal. It is like a 'moral 'of outsourcing sex. In addition, most students justify this as having 'fun' before actually settling down in future. Sadly, when the sexual desire towards that person dies, so does the relationship.
2. The unending materialism paradox: There is a saying that goes, ' a relationship should take you to the altar or to the bank.' However, for some or most campus relationships, it’s always about the money. You would be lucky if as a rich guy in campus, the lady you are dating is not with you because of your paper. Once again, the Genesis of the relationship ending is when the money fades. Still on this subject, materialism for campus relationships is also tied to status, for example a campus celeb or icon. Some will date such to be affiliated with the same status.
3. Long distance: Long distances by virtue of occasional long holidays are quite venom to the survival of most campus relationships. For some campus students who are in a relationship, impatience is a ‘virtue'. Referring to point one, there is the temptation to cheat where delaying sexual gratification seems difficult. As a result, new ventures may be sought which render the other relationship fruitless. 4. Scratch my back relationships: Most campus relationships are selfless relationships where either party is trying to maximize his or her own benefit. This is especially where couples move in together in a span of weeks after the relationship has offset. For guys, it is more of getting the comfort of foregoing house chores while for the lady; it may be for material security. In addition, it is often the case of taking rather than giving. So in actual sense, it's like partnerships that are not consciously acknowledged as such.
5. Finally, conflict of time: Believe it or not academics sometimes can get in the way of a relationship. A relationship is dynamic with varying and diverse needs, so does studies. For some, balancing these two is a difficult task. For those workaholic students, they would rather compromise the relationship.There is a Swedish proverb about relationships that says, 'shared joy is a double joy and shared sorrow is half a sorrow'.