Women never learn, men too. But anyone who keeps doing the same things over and over shouldn't expect different outcomes. The process ...
Women never learn, men too. But anyone who keeps doing the same things over and over shouldn't expect different outcomes. The process of change has to be initiated. It has to be set in motion. However, the most common misdemeanor that human beings have is not giving a damn about change. Women especially are associated with the refusal to see the obvious, the refusal to take another path when the main one is foggy. These 5 mistakes have been repeated by the fairer sèx from generation to generation.
Trusting Too Much
Women trust too much - especially women in love. Dear ladies, we men are not that good. We are full of crap and that’s just the truth. We love playing games again and again. Games are fun We will be loyal when broke but cheat when we have money. We will lie a lot too. Many good men are pretenders concealed in a holy nutcase whereas many bad men are simply not good. There is no everlasting happiness anywhere. So learn to cope with us, but don’t trust too much, or else the heartbreak merry-go-round just keeps spinning .
Believing a man will change
No, men don't change as quickly as technology. We don’t change unless we really want to. We don’t change unless we see that our lives are about to go down the drain. We don’t change unless we see that matters have really dwindled to deplorable levels. We are even worse when you try to change us by force. When it comes to dealing with us, It’s better to do your part and leave the rest to the heavens.
A good number of women are attracted to bad men because in their humble hearts, these women believe they can change the men. Women always have an urge to care for and correct. This is effective when applied to little children but not to men. When a man reaches a certain age, change is something only he himself can initiate.
Being too clingy
Another common mistake a woman can do is believing that a man will love more when she’s around every time. They cling to a man like a 'pekelee' on a Coca Cola bottle. No, he won’t. he’ll get bored. Men hate clingy women. We only enjoy clingy women when the sèx is still good but after that we see it as disturbance. It’s too bad that we don’t have restraining orders in Kenya. Many men would love to have restraining orders against some women
Playing hard to get
There’s plenty of fish in the sea- Tilapia, Ngege, Mbuta, Shark etc. Many times I have heard good women console themselves using this statement: “If a man really wants me, he’ll work really hard to get me.” So wrong. Only a desperate man will do that. A man suffering from dry spells. A normal man will move to the next hot woman if you start playing hard to get. Then what happens is that the same lady who was playing hard to get sees that the man has stopped putting effort so she decides to go after him. By then, this guy has already gotten another chic but he won’t mind having two. So he plays with them both until one of them realizes and goes crying on Facebook. And the cycle continues
Mourning a relationship for too long
Ladies, when someone has cheated on you, get over it. Stop thinking that the two of you will reconcile because you loved each other. So a lady goes, “oooh…but I love him, I can’t get over him. I think he doesn’t love his current girl like he loved me. Maybe it can still work” So you think he’ll come back and suddenly be faithful? Cut the crap please.
If the two of you have broken up, move on. Real men move on quickly after a relationship and so should real women. There’s abundance in the world. That means there’s no justification in shedding a bucket full of tears for one individual. Adios.