1. Do not call each other husband and wife if you are not married. Married here implies that your union has an aspect of legality or ...
1. Do not call each other husband and wife if you are not married.
Married here implies that your union has an aspect of legality or customarily defined. Enjoy your time together during courtship or
rather as boyfriend and girlfriend. It is dangerous to automatically perceive your partner as your spouse because it will stop you from being evaluative of you relationship at present. Even if there’s hope
for a future together, the beauty of it all is letting phenomena take a natural course.
2.Ever heard of delightful surprises versus frantic reliefs?
Well frantic reliefs could only mean that you are too dependent on your partner. Ladies just be feminine and let the men ‘work hard’ to get you rather than facilitating the process. Think about this, would you rather wait for your partner to call you by staring at your phone all day or they call when you least expected? Well the latter is a
delightful surprise: keep it that way.
3. Do not make your partner the center of your world.
That may sound mean but the beauty of a romantic relationship is to be mysterious and not predictable at all. Well that cannot happen if both of you are always drooling with each other all day and night. Ensure you are happy even outside your relationship. Invest your time elsewhere too. For example in hobbies, talents, skills and other friends.
4. Do not give your partner your mind.
Any time you let someone in, you may give them the whole of your heart but do not let them in your mind. Your partner may use your mind against you to control you.
Drawing comparison from cult movements, that’s how cult leaders control their followers: by using mind control. Be firm with your decisions and do not agree to everything your partner says just
because you are in a relationship with them.
5. Get out of the relationship’s comfort zone once in a while.
Sometimes you need to forget the notion that when you love someone, you should do so in totality. Remember your partner is a human being
who makes mistakes too. Therefore, never assume that the love between you will fix their faults. Some people never change no matter how much love you lay on them.